One of the saddest situations I face daily working with couples is having one partner eagerly waiting for an opportunity to ask IF THEIR MARRIAGE WAS HEADED FOR A DIVORCE considering the issues they are currently facing. Having seen clients who were divorced but now back together and others with minor issues that ended up separating them forever, thats one question i know very well to navigate carefully. This test will help you know how far or close to divorce you and your partner currently are.
— telling us the extent to which at this time you agree or disagree with each statement. At the end, tally up each category and use our key to interpret your results.
Above 55: You’re emotionally close to your partner, a sign that your relationship is going strong. “Trust is the number one thing that makes a relationship work.”
45-55: Your relationship may have once been solid, but recently some cracks have begun to show. “[People] who are listening and interested in their partner’s day are more likely to build trust and commitment and be better partners”.
35-44: If you’ve been unable to cope with problems that have plagued your relationship recently, consider taking a couple’s seminar to realign your relationship goals and individual needs.
Less than 35: It’s time to bring in the pros and seek a couples therapist immediately. “Criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling are the best predictors of a doomed relationship,” they all seem present in your marriage.
#1. ✦ My partner rarely puts me down.
#2. ✦ I feel that my partner finds me physically attractive.
#3. ✦ I would consider myself happy in this relationship.
#4. ✦ My partner respects my dreams in life.
#5. ✦ My partner makes me feel safe
#6. ✦ I feel that my partner is very interested in me.
#7. ✦ I feel confident that we can deal with whatever problems might arise.
#8. ✦ I feel emotionally close to my partner.
#9. ✦ I have a great deal of respect and admiration for my partner.
#10. ✦ My partner really listens to me.
#11. ✦ My partner is one of my best friends.
#12. ✦ My partner really tries hard to meet my needs.
#13. ✦ I am committed to staying together.
#14. ✦ I think that my partner really cares about me.